Nothing has challenged me more or made me prouder than marriage. And yet this is something I seldom remember or acknowledge. At a marriage course last year I was reminded of the privilege that marriage is. And yet it doesn’t get celebrated in society. Weddings do. Weddings get a lot of press. But marriage becomes ‘institution’, ‘boredom’, ‘predictable’. We are not quick to honour it. Quicker, perhaps, to assume that one or other of a duo must be being suppressed, must feel trapped ... if they were honest!
It was so refreshing to be given permission to pat myself on the back, and to celebrate the gift that marriage is. I was invigorated to run again with more motivation into the unknown, whilst fully embracing the very well known.
‘Vow’ will mean different things to different people. But for me it is what I wish I had the words to express back when I said ‘I do’, to the man who knows only too well that I am still working out how to uphold these, and too often fall short. But should I reach this goal and do nothing more with my entire life but that, I know I will have accomplished something great; something that can feel rare, but when we look for it we see this all around us, being worked out in a million different ways.